You see, I look up to Yves (not real name) in many ways. She has spunk, style, knows her stuff and carries herself with reasonable confidence. You can then imagine my surprise!
She shared with me (I am grateful for such an honor) how she was at a low point in her life. Being me, I probed a bit further, and it happened that she was putting herself through the wringers for not moving as fast on a personal goal as she wanted to. She felt underserved about what she had accomplished so far. This resonated with my journey.
It amazes me how many talented, graceful and game-changing women put themselves and their work down. Many times not because others have but more because of their over exerted self-criticism. It is called the impostor syndrome.
It has no bias for demography and can affect just about anyone – mostly women. It usually shows up after an accomplishment – graduation from college, promotion at work, weight loss or gain, etc.
Three ways to overcome self-doubt
- Remember – You are not alone
The one you look up to feels self-doubt occasionally or even more frequently. Very successful women are known to battle with feelings of insecurity or inadequacy. Sheryl Sandberg in her book, Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead, shares her experience with feeling undeserved of her success.
Need I say more? Chin up, you’re in good company!
- Use words of affirmation
Affirm and re-affirm yourself daily. This ritual boosts your confidence and gives you positive energy that takes you through the day. I have found that my words shape my days. I practice this religiously and have experienced the power of it.
- Celebrate milestones
Don’t wait for the major milestones to celebrate yourself and all the work you’ve put in. Mark every progress. This way, you can look back and see how far you’ve come on your journey to your destination.
So, my dear lady, you are terrific, full of light, an inspiration to many. You deserve every success and progress that comes your way because you have worked hard for it. Take a minute to celebrate yourself today.
You are an answer to many prayers. Your business has put food on tables, and your words have healed hearts.
Your coaching has created leaders. Many, some of whom you have no clue exist, look out for your content and draw inspiration from your life’s work.
You are amaze-balls!.